Shyt Falls Into Place!

Welcome to Philly! Yes, just as the title reads, it is important to understand and accept that life has a way of working out for you whether you know it or not. I am a living and thriving testament that when life seems to take a wide left turn out of no where that you will truly park in the spot that was "predestined" for you! Now, I am not a man who will force my religious or spiritual beliefs on any other human, but I will say that while some denounce the formality of religion that they too believe in a higher power. Humans aren't self-sustained without the influence of a historical belief or secular doctrine. Being totally transparent, I wouldn't want anyone in my personal space who doesn't believe in "something!" Anyway, back to life as I am writing it today...it works out! There is a specific caveat...you have to do something within and about your life in order for it to happen for you and to work out for you.

Have you ever thought for a second as to how you engage with yourself over how you engage with those around you. Yes, I know that this may present an issue for some of you coming from a post pandemic environment, but have you really thought about how it is that you treat yourself? This is a good point in which we can juxtapose living to existing. One of my closest friends, about 10 years ago, told me to be kind to myself- hey Brit! Yes, she declared that I needed to be kind to myself. At age 25 I was in that mode of questioning my career path and really bashing the choices that I made because I was at a place of comparing my journey to that of my peers. I very well could have gone to medical school as I had intended, but that was me existing in a life of what my father chose for himself. She, on that day , enforced a spirit of self-awareness and self-embrace that I truly had not done. I was not kind to myself. I didn't take time for myself. I would occupy my mind and time with things and people who really did not matter. You read that right...those people did not matter! I had to begin to show up for myself and not be distracted by the the fast lane of life's journey.

Living is truly taking time for yourself. This may mean being distant from your significant other at certain times of the day or year, but you want to make sure that you communicate that upfront so that it doesn't appear to be anything else. Meditating at a particular time of the day to regain your personal consciousness before you enter or reenter your worldly routine is key as well. For those of us who believe in (a) God, this may include prayer. Whatever it takes to bring balance to your life, this is what you should do. You can do for yourself better than anyone else can. I am learning all over again to show up for me, be kind to me, and simply make time for me. One of my favorite books, Loving What Is, is authored by Byron Katie who noted that we have 20/20 vision about other people and not about ourselves. She supports that we should do the work on ourselves to change our projecting mind rather than the projected. Simply put, we cannot change people regardless of our view, but if we do the work on ourselves, we can impact real change. Now that is living!

The recent shift in my life was one that I prayed for; although, it really did not go the way that I had it planned in my head. I am happy with who I am and who I am becoming. A man who does the work to better himself for himself is a man of desirability. I encourage you to be available and show up for your self in real life. I have taken the additional moments to approach my day without distraction but focus and self-inspiration. Plan ahead for yourself so that you stay ahead when life tends to introduce a delay. You are more than capable of being your best self as long as you do the work for yourself!